How to Survive a Divorce (or Serious Relationship Break Up)

Woo-hoooo! This is an uplifting topic for today’s post, huh? Divorce – because everyone likes to talk about that. Divorce in a TEOTWAWKI situation? SHTF divorce? Nope – just plain old surviving normal, day-to-day life during and after a divorce.

Yup, you guessed it – 2011 ROCKED (mega sarcasm font)! I got divorced. I know, I know, this isn’t your average “woah is me” type personal blog, but sometimes I just use this site as a place to dump words running wild in my head. This post isn’t entirely ON preparedness topic, but … the sewage hit the fan for me, starting in oh – about July. Then the sewage just kept hitting the fan … splatting … and spraying … all over the place in a steady stream of spirit draining blech.

The keywords in this blog post title, over time, are apt to bring in a variety of your non-prepper, web surfing, information seeking, about-to-get-divorced people in wicked good spirits. If that’s YOU – woo-hoo to you, too. Sucks, huh?

I’m not going to get into the “why” of divorce or “when” to know it’s time to call it quits. The answers to that depend entirely on the individual and his/her situation. There is no right answer. You just find yourself in a situation, for whatever reason, and you have to deal with it. This post is more about the “how” – how to survive a divorce, or how I survived it anyway. It’s tough, I know that. The only thing I have to offer are five little helpful hints that helped me get through the dark days.

Helpful Hint Numba One – Maintain a civic, friendly relationship. That’s pretty much a requirement if you have kids, for the sake of the kids. Of course, maybe your situation makes that impossible, maybe your situation has come about because you can’t have a friendly relationship no matter how hard you try. That sucks worse, I’m guessing. I didn’t/don’t have that. It happened, it sucked, but hey – being pi$$ed doesn’t help anyone. Be real. Don’t hate.

Helpful Hint Number Two – Hunker down, hibernate. Sometimes just lying on your bed staring at the ceiling is the best thing to do. Of course, it sucks when the alarm is going off, you have to do x,y and z errands, you still have to work, etc. Sometimes you can’t just hunker down. Did I say divorce sucks?

Helpful Hint Number Three – Get the lead out! Fill up a bunch of 1 or 2 liter bottles with water, set them out at the range or gravel pit, whoop out your mighty AR-15 or .44 magnum and get that lead out. It’s a great stress reducer. Yes? Yes … in most circumstances, but in divorce, sometimes nothing helps, except …

Helpful Hint Numba Four – Tylenol PM is your friend. Never would I have thought I’d say that. Inever had a sleep problem before getting a divorce. I’ve always needed a lot of sleep (8 hours) and would have no problem getting it. My head would hit the pillow and – bam! I’d be out. Then I was in the divorce situation and either I couldn’t fall asleep or I’d fall asleep only to wake up way too early and unable to fall back asleep. A few days of this and I was fine, but week after week after week? Sometimes my body would be in a spot where I’d really need hours down for the count. I’m not sure what the Diphenhydramine HCI 25mg “active sleep ingredient” is all about (technically it’s just Benadryl), but … it works! Use it when you need it, but don’t do it more than that.

Helpful Hint Numba Five – Move on. You’ve got to. Clinging on doesn’t help. Don’t dwell in the doldrums forever. While you’re lying on your bed staring at the ceiling, there is life going on. We only have so much life. Live it.

The prepper downside to divorce is – now what? It’s kinda like starting preps over, too. Garden? Gone. Storage pantry? Gone. Hiking gear? Got that. That helps, too – hiking. Outdoors. Fresh air. Nature.

But hey, no “woah is me” now. It’s 2012, and that’s much better news, given that the world is supposed to end this year and all.

– Ranger Man

BTW: to end on a more upbeat note, if you’re an Android smart phone user, SHTFblog now has a free app you can download for your phone. Get updates with the touch of a button. I’ll make a more prominent announcement on it in the future, but it can be downloaded in your Android app “market” now by searching for “SHTFblog” (or by going here).